relatively speaking

relatively speaking

looking at the informal ways we talk about death and dying in our everyday conversations

talking about death

When was the last time you were “scared to death”?  Please tell me below.

It’s interesting to check out the #scaredtodeath twitter stream.!/search/%23scaredtodeath


 In the relatively speaking blog series

I’ll be highlighting a deathly figure of speech  from my vast collection.

Here are some upcoming phrases:

died laughing

i’m dying to know

to die for

kiss of death

drop dead gorgeous

i just died

i’ve died and gone to heaven

it’s a matter of life and death

over my dead body

before i die

i’ll sleep when i’m dead

death and taxes

dead giveaway

do or die

deadpan look

dead of night

death watch

back from the dead

innovate or die

dead in the water


starving to death

drop dead

dying of thirst

play dead

love them to death

death warmed over

die-hard fan

dead wringer

dead end


relatively speaking

Talking about death is talking about life. 
Let’s talk about it!

Courageous Conversations

I am starting a new campaign, it’s called,

Courageous Conversations


Quite simply, it’s a grassroots effort to encourage people of all ages and stages of health to tell their doctors and health care professionals that they want to talk about and explore their personal thoughts and choices regarding death, dying, and end of life care options. This is not necessarily a one time conversation, but an ongoing relationship that allow doctors and other health care professionals to focus on their expertise of improving health while at the same time understand the patient’s openness to discuss difficult topics such as death, dying, pain, palliative, and hospice care.  Let’s lean into the tension between wanting to talk, a little afraid to talk, and not knowing when the right time to talk is.  The time is now.

There are reminder, business size cards being created for individuals to carry for courage!

The front:





The back:

Talking about End of Life

will improve my

Quality of Life.


Please contact me to join in this campaign that encourages

Healthy Conversations about Death and Dying to Inspire Life and Living!

Healing Grief | Personal and Professional Insights from Robert A. Neimeyer, PhD

I absolutely could not let any of this healing grief interview series left on the cutting room floor! Hence, here are two more videos.  Robert Neimeyer is a highly respected thanatologist and grief expert.    At the beginning of the first video, we continue our discussion from this original post, on a model of grief theory called “meaning reconstruction.”   Meaning Reconstruction is a process of healing grief through the telling and re-telling of our life stories; seeking new meanings to re-affirm and re-build our life in a world without our loved one.  Dr. Neimeyer is advancing this model of grief in his research, counseling practice and life’s work.   In the second video, the interview shifts as he shares his attitude towards his personal mortality, death and dying in the arts, and his philosophy of life.  The interview concludes with the reading of  his poem entitled “The Art of Longing”.   It is an honor to share his articulate, intelligent and compassionate voice through these healing grief video interviews.  Thank you Dr. Neimeyer, for  openly and honestly sharing some of your personal and professional views on living life and dying death.