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The art of living well and the art of dying well are one.






relatively speaking

relatively speaking

looking at the informal ways we talk about death and dying in our everyday conversations

When was the last time you “died laughing“?  Please tell me below.

It’s interesting to check out the #diedlaughing twitter stream.!/search/%23diedlaughing

 In the relatively speaking blog series

I’ll be highlighting a deathly figure of speech  from my vast collection.

Here are some upcoming phrases:

i’m dying to know

to die for

kiss of death

drop dead gorgeous

i just died

i’ve died and gone to heaven

it’s a matter of life and death

over my dead body

before i die

i’ll sleep when i’m dead

death and taxes

dead giveaway

do or die

deadpan look

dead of night

death watch

back from the dead

innovate or die

dead in the water


starving to death

drop dead

dying of thirst

play dead

love them to death

death warmed over

die-hard fan

dead wringer

dead end

relatively speaking

Talking about death is talking about life. 
Let’s talk about it!


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What do you think is






relatively speaking

talking about death is talking about life

A project to promote healthy conversations about death and dying by bringing awareness to the common phrases about death that permeate our everyday language.

relatively speaking allows us to explore the boundaries of talking about death and dying with curiosity & fun.

cards & gallery exhibit in development

A Bittersweet Paradox: Talking about Death is Talking about Life

I am honored that Maria Shriver’s blog invited me to guest blog last week.  Her philosophy that “by sharing our worlds, we help one another make our lives matter” resonates with me.




I have received wonderful responses from the post which further confirms my belief that people are thinking about death & dying and ultimately they do want to talk about it, but just not sure where, when, or how.  During my Gatherings we talk about why our society doesn’t talk openly about death & dying.  Overall the responses are fascinating and varied in the way they are expressed, but yet a few common themes emerge: “Fear/anxiety/denial/vulnerability”, “We don’t want to seem morbid, depressed, or negative”, “We are afraid that if we talk about it, death will happen, we’ll be tempting fate”, and “Talking about death and dying is too emotional and personal”.  However, at the Gatherings when we discuss why we should talk openly about death & dying the list grows long, because there are so very many reasons: physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, financial, relational, societal, generational, and universal reasons!

In our culture, we spend a great deal of time defining “living well.” Let’s learn together what it means to “die well.” Let’s lean into the paradox, lean into the tension between wanting to talk about death and not wanting to talk about death.  Talking about death is talking about life.




Personal Thanatology

Personal Thanatology

It’s a Matter of Life and Death


Create a Personal Thanatology.  I’ll listen and encourage as you discover your unique perspective of what is important to you in Living Well & Dying Well.  I believe that when we talk more openly about death and dying, we are able to support and care for ourselves and one another more deeply.  It’s a simple message about a complex topic ~ talking about death and dying will improve the world we live in.


than · a · tol · o · gy                    [than-uh-tol-uh-jee]

n. the study of death and dying

Personal Thanatology

Reflect · Share · Live

v.   the lifelong discovery process where you (1) reflect on and explore your personal experiences, thoughts, memories, beliefs, stories and questions about death and dying; (2) share your ideas and stories with family, friends and acquaintances; then (3) live life based in what you value and brings you meaning ~ live your Philosophy of Life.

My goal in introducing this concept is to encourage people of all ages to be more comfortable with conversations about death and dying. Never to diminish the sadness and suffering of death, dying, grief, and loss, but to also be open to the love, peace, and support that are possible.

Today, remember a death experience you have had in your lifetime, anywhere from a childhood experience to a current experience of death, dying, grief, or loss.   Can you tell someone your story, can you listen to theirs?  Please remember to be gentle with yourself.  Compassion and non-judgment towards self and others is an essential ingredient in creating a

Personal Thanatology

Reflect · Share · Live




Hey, Thanks!

Indie Book Award: Living Life Dying Death | A Guide to Healthy Conversations about Death and Dying to Inspire Life and Living I am honored to announce that my newly released book

Living Life Dying Death | A Guide to Healthy Conversations about Death and Dying to Inspire Life and Living

recently won an Indie Book Award!  The awards ceremony was held at The Plaza Hotel in NYC.  It was a wonderful evening that brought new acquaintances and great joy.  The book won the self-help category and was a finalist in the E-book category.  The  philosophy of the book encourages and inspires courageous conversations about death, dying, grief, and loss & living life fully.   So, when I was invited to The Plaza, I responded YES!

The art of living well and the art of dying well are one.


Healthy Conversations about Death and Dying to Inspire Life and Living

My book :::  living life dying death | A Guide to Healthy Conversations about Death and Dying to Inspire Life and Living has just been published!  I’m having a book launch party….. please contact if you would like to join us!  Thank you to all of my family and friends that have supported my work and this book concept for MANY years!

Love to each and every one of you!

You can purchase the book here!


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